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5 not-too-scary, but still racy moves you can try tonight

With these entry-level moves, there’s no need to go full-force dominatrix. Work your way up to the candle wax and latex catsuits

You can actually spice up your sex life in a very tame and comfortable way and still get amazingly satisfying results. You don’t necessarily have to rig up the sex swing just yet; first, try some of these milder, yet totally, totally smoking-hot moves with your partner tonight!

1. Blindfolding

Recently, Cosmo Radio determined this move to be “hot” in the “Hot or Hype” segment of their programming in which they ask people to confirm whether or not something known for being sexy really is sexy. Blindfolding was rated “hot” for sure, and can be a great, low-key way to heighten you and your partner’s experience.

Without your sight, all of your other senses will perk up, much to your advantage. Try using a sexy texture, like silk or satin or even better, an item of your clothing like a stocking or slinky camisole. Plus you can rest easy because a blindfold is much easier to remove than say, furry locked handcuffs.

2. Leave an article of clothing on.

Whether it’s that hot pair of boots you bought for the fall, or the faded concert T-shirt you borrowed from him to sleep in, leaving one item of clothing on during your tryst can be very sexy. There is something about seeing a person not completely naked that makes your experience seem that much more “we-had-to-have-each-other.” Also, this is a way you can actually make being more covered up sexy!

3. Just add water.

You do not, I repeat, do not, have to jump into any sort of hot tub nor jacuzzi to add water and sexiness to your romantic evening. If you’re not quite ready for the reality TV show hot tub make out session, never fear. You can have an equally sexy time in the much more demure, much more private shower for two.

Simply grab a couple of towels and crank up the hot water–you know I have to make some sort of “getting clean never felt so dirty” line here, of course. Seriously though, showering together is very hot, highly-recommended, and a nice entry-level way of taking your sex life to the next level. Just watch out when leaning against those shower doors! Trust me.

4. Change the scenery.

If you always, always, always seem to find yourself in his or her twin bed staring at a poster of Brett Michaels, then it might be time to switch it up a bit. First of all, a house has many, many rooms. Second of all, is the Brett Michael poster from the ’80s a la Poison, or from the current era of Rock of Love? I’m totally curious. Regardless, even getting down and dirty on the bedroom floor or against a kitchen counter can be a fun change of pace without getting too crazy. You don’t have to go too far to take things to a whole new level.

5. Play dress up just a little.

You don’t need to wear one of those sexy kitty/sailor/nurse/plumber/orthodonist Halloween costumes that radiate lameness. You can however, add just one part of the costume to your adventure.

For example, instead of wearing a complete librarian ensemble, just wear your glasses. Instead of donning the complete sexy pirate get-up, just wear the eye patch. Wait, I’m not sure that would be the sexiest accessory to leave on, but you get my drift. Just a little can go a long way.

The point is, go at your own pace. Don’t feel pressured to slither into a pleather jumpsuit and have an arsenal of flavored sex lotions under your bed immediately. Just be yourself. Go slow. With each new adventure you can build your confidence and find out exactly which adventures suit your tastes.

When you push the envelope slowly, you can have fun, but still feel totally comfortable with everything including the escalation of your kinky comfort level. So, go slow, have fun, and be safe!

Do you have a good idea for a not-too-scary, but still racy move readers can try? Leave comments below!

Bondage for beginners

A novice’s guide to kink avenue

Don’t be scared! Give me a chance to explain! Okay, thank you. Welcome back. Now, you certainly can do whips n’ chains, leathered-out, piercey, spanky S&M, BUT that’s for hardcore fans. Let’s just take a tour for now, shall we?

Now, you can have a very sensual experience by perhaps tying your lover’s hands to the headboard with a necktie or using a silk scarf as a blindfold. Any sort of basic bondage or sensory depravation will be fun, provided you have trust, communication and a good “safe” word. Just don’t use discarded tights or any type of nylon. It may seem hot at the time, but they are damn difficult to untie after the fun is over. Trust me, I know.

Back to the point, not knowing where, when or how you’ll be touched can be incredibly exciting. Binding your hands only adds to the titillation, because when you get to the point where you just want to grab your partner and go at it, you’ll have to refrain, causing your desire to build. You can, of course, switch off roles and, depending what each partner enjoys, make the choice to travel further down S&M Lane. Perhaps you can try spanking your “naughty girl” or pinching his manly nipples … whatever tickles your goodies.

Here is why you may enjoy kink: When sexually aroused, you’re filled with endorphins. This gives you a higher threshold for pain, but that still doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll like it.

Just start light.

Clothing is a good place. Who wouldn’t want to be tossed around by Michelle Pfeiffer as Catwoman? Costumes can help you get into character, which makes assuming the submissive or dominant role a hell of a lot easier. Mary Sue would probably never take a belt to Joe Bob’s backside in real life, but in the bedroom, wearing black, thigh-high boots and some black lingerie, she can morph in to the dungeon mistress and he, the sexy prisoner.

Okay, I know this may seem rather silly, as opposed to just getting your freak on, but it can undoubtedly spice up a sex life. Below, you’ll find some tips. Please read them at your leisure.

– Discuss each other’s boundaries before any naughtiness ensues. Handing over control can be scary, particularly when unable to see or have a full range of motion. Trust and communication are absolutely necessary.

– You’ve probably heard of “safe” words, like “chicken soup” or “dishwasher.” They don’t necessarily have to be that random, but it’s good to choose a definite safe word which, if uttered, makes things stop immediately. After all, in the context of your roles, “no” or “stop” can mean anything from “No, Count Hardwood! I’m just a virginal servant girl!” to “Stop, Mrs. Suzy Teacher! Don’t smack me with that ruler!” or “Ow! That’s enough, jerk!”

– Dress the part. You may think corsets or merry widows are trampy, but they can be far sexier than straight nudity. Just try something new. If you usually have sex naked, try wearing a slip or miniskirt. But for heaven’s sake, never, ever, ever get caught naked wearing socks!

– If you’re wearing stockings and a garter belt (which you should–wowzers!), be sure to put your panties on over the garters. This way, you can remove the panties when the time comes, while still wearing shoes and stockings. You can lose the rest of your French maid costume, but leave those. It will be greatly appreciated and remember: If you’re gonna see your legs in the air, they might as well be wearing some sexy stilettos.

I know it may all seem like a bit much, but start with baby steps and don’t be afraid to propose a little scenario to your lover. Blindfolding and bondage can be as sweet, sensual, hot, raunchy, as whatever you like. When it comes to pain … things get a little more daring, but it can be one of the most intense orgasmic highs of your life. Fo’ sho’. But for now, start small. Have fun, you naughty kids, you!

What's your career personality?

Choose from six different personality types to see what careers may be best for you

CNN.com had an article that caught my eye this morning. Titled “Does Your Career Fit Your Personality?” it talked about six personality groups and what careers are best for you.  The article breaks them down as so:

1. Artistic –

These people are creative with extremely active imaginations. They also like to work without rules and use designs or words. Some good jobs for artistic people include an editor, graphic designer and producer. Salaries can be anywhere from $40,000-$80,000, CNN reported.

2. Conventional –

Conventional people are more of the opposite of those happy-go-lucky creative types. They like rules, schedules and instructions. They’d rather work with data than ideas and most are very practical. Ideal jobs for conventional people could be accountants, financial planners and technical writers, CNN stated. Their salaries run from $45,000-$75,000.

3. Enterprising –

People who are enterprising tend to be the leaders. They oversee projects from beginning to end and are doers more than thinkers. They look at the big picture. Some jobs for those who see themselves as enterprising could be program directors, sales reps and sales managers. Salaries vary, but CNN pointed out that most are about $48,000 to $78,000

4. Investigative –

Investigative people prefer working alone and using logic over imagination, solving problems and putting together puzzles. Most are science professors, librarians and optometrists, making approximately $48,000-$75,000.

5. Realistic –

Realists are very hands-on and like problems and finding solutions to them. They also like working outside, or with machines and other tools. They tend to be in jobs like electricians, nuclear engineers and orthodontists. Salaries can be anywhere from $35,000-$250,000, depending on the type of position.

6. Social –

Social people love helping others and working with people. They prefer teams and communicate well and would rather talk than work with machines. The best jobs for social people are those that let them do so, such as family practitioners, coaches and trainers. CNN reported that their salaries are anywhere from $45,000 to $160,000.

Our Take:

What’s your career personality?  Does it fit with the job suggestions?  Do you find descriptions like these accurate or just a made-up idea to get you to read stories?

Dating your classmate: a good idea?

Ways to make classmate dating doable

We’ve all been there. You’re sitting behind a girl or a guy in your class, you get a chance to admire his feathery hair, or her elegant shoulders, or a really nice butt. That one is genderless. In a situation where you’re forced to interact with people of all different shapes and sizes, it’s no strange thing to find yourself attracted to someone. And again, it’s no strange thing to want to do the no pants dance of romance with the person in question.

But wait a minute! What if things don’t work out? What if it’s just a one night stand? What if you don’t “perform” well enough? You’re doomed to an entire semester of awkwardness, constantly wondering how this person with the hair, the shoulders, the beautiful butt, is going to handle the whole situation! How are YOU going to handle this situation? Do you carry on like normal? Can you even look them in face?!

Are you crying? I’m sorry. Really, I am. But dry your tears, and maybe I can help make things easier:

My first bit of advice on the subject of hooking up with a classmate is: don’t do it! I know, I know, it seems contradictory.

Perhaps I can better explain myself with a story: I walked into my first day of math class in the second semester of my junior year. I was the opposite of excited. But I meet a girl (let’s call her Katie), we joke and flirt, we do the Facebook thing, and soon enough we were hanging out in her dorm room. One thing led to another, and we started a sexual relationship. Things were going fine, but suddenly…she began to get clingy. And jealous. And spiteful. And fat. Not really. But the relationship spiraled into nothingness the way any relationship does when presented with those issues.

Herein lay the problem: we still had a good half semester of math class left. Sure, I played the “be absent as often as possible” game, but Katie refused to talk to me. Or look at me. And in a classroom setting, that’s not only noticeable, but extremely annoying. How am I supposed to figure out the cosine of a triangle by myself?! Needless to say, it was awkward. And all our classmates knew it.

But you’re not the type to be scared by that story, are you? You want to have your cake and eat it too, don’t you? You’re wondering how that’s possible, aren’t you? Well, there are a few things you can do. For one, do NOT bring your real world relationship into the classroom. Wait until those moments when everyone walks to the elevator or across campus, and do your flirting there. The fewer classmates who know about your sordid little classroom affair, the better. That way, there’s no desire (on either of your parts) to keep up appearances.

Another thing to watch out for: make sure the other party can HANDLE a casual relationship, and its end (if it comes to that). Before you ever touch each other, keep an eye out for tell-tale signs: does he call you six times a day? Does she keep saying “I like you” every other sentence? I think you get the picture. The biggest thing in a casual classmate sex-romp is maturity. If they’re going to go all “high school musical” on you, you don’t want any part of it. Not even the butt.

That’s about the extent of advice I can give, other than: Good luck, and don’t screw it up. And if you do, don’t come crying to me. Cuz I warned ya.

Kama Sutra: Dorm Style

Positions that make use of a dorm room’s limited space

I’ll be honest, the first thing I worried about when moving onto campus was, “How is this going to ruin my sex life?” I mean between a roommate and a small – and possibly hard – bed, my style was destined to be cramped.

My suspicions were raised further when I walked in my dorm with my parents as a freshman. My bed was six feet high! Yes, six freaking feet. My parent’s loved the fact that I had my desk and study space underneath, with my bed out of the way. All I could think of was climbing six feet, with a hard-on, trying to get my groove. Not sexy.

But, I quickly learned that dorm sex is just as fun, albeit a bit more creative. So to help my readers out I present to you some of the best positions to keep it spicy.

1.) The Doorknocker. This is a quick favorite. Once I wanted an afternoon quickie. It was around 5:30 and I remember my roommate would be back at 6:18. So I said screw the bed and used this position. To make sure he couldn’t just walk in, I used the door as a brace.

2.) CHAIRentry. For some reason most dorms always have that spare armchair that’s a bit nicer than your desk chair, and certainly more comfortable. Well that chair became my sex chair. You have your lady or male friend sit with their hands and legs around the man as he kneels and enters. If you like it wild, the man can brace himself with the back of that armchair for more thrust.

3.) Mini Fridge tussle. We all have that many fridge that comes as high as your tummy. Well, for something new and exciting try bending someone over. It allows for easy access . Don’t even worry about taking off all your clothes.

4.) The Hush-Hush. So once or twice I haven’t been able to resist getting laid even though my roommate was in the room, sound asleep of course (or so he says). You lie in the spoon position with your partner in that awful six-foot bed. This position is nice because if the roomie does wake it appears as if you are sleep under the covers. This position only stays quiet if the man thrusts quietly (unlike my roomie who tried and failed the quietness of this position.)

5.) The Workout. This was my favorite. Instead of hitting the gym, I stood and carried my partner. Gentleman, make sure s/he wraps their legs around your waist and your shoulders. Or if you want to give them a workout make them use the bar on a lofted bed or the automatic closing thing on the top of the door.

Don't cheat yourself: never fake an orgasm!

You’re only ensuring you don’t get real ones later

Let’s say he’s been going down on you for a while and it feels…okay. At least he’s trying. Might as well reward his efforts with a fake orgasm, right? Wrong! Big mistake, missy! A fake orgasm only leads him to believe that he’s rocking your world when, in reality, he’s no more skilled than a sloppy little puppy. Don’t give him a treat if he doesn’t perform the trick!

Assuming neither of you are deaf or dumb, you should be able to talk about sex: what works and what does not, what feels amazing and what tickles/hurts/feels like getting poked in the pooper. Honestly though, if you are partaking in this sort of intimate activity, you should be able to talk to one another.

Do you ever want an orgasm? Well, he won’t just magically figure it out someday. If you keep faking, he’ll have no idea that his current tactics aren’t doing it for you. You don’t even necessarily need to bring it up – just stop faking. He will definitely notice that something is amiss. You needn’t say you were faking all along – the male ego is fragile, after all. Just kindly, perhaps steamily suggest what you want him to do. He’ll likely appreciate the information.

Even if it isn’t terribly serious between you two, teaching a guy what’s what will make him a better lay for legions of lovers to come. Haha…come. You’re doing him a huge favor in the long run and earning yourself some sweet, sweet orgasms in the process. If he can’t take a grown-up discussion about sex, it may just be time to look for someone a little more mature. What’s the point of getting him off if you never do?

Not sure what to have him do? He could watch you masturbate to get some ideas of how you like to be touched. Perhaps you could look at a quality sex book together. It’s always fun to learn new skills! Be aware that some less-evolved men can be threatened by sex toys. It’s just insecurity. Let him know that while a dildo or clit stimulator can be nice, there ain’t nothing like the cock.

Just promise not to fake. Well, I’ll allow the occasional I’m-tired-just-finish-already fakey, but try not to make a habit of it. It doesn’t do either of you any good. When I was 18, I used to fool around with my boyfriend, then secretly masturbate after he’d fall asleep. A gal’s gotta get off somehow! But we’re not 18 anymore. Let’s have the best sex we possibly can. Now is the time! Go forth and find those orgasms that leave you tingly, breathing like you just ran a marathon and quivering with a fresh dose of oxytocin.